
I have spent most of my career studying communication. I teach it. I research it. I train teams on it. And after all these years, I have become convinced of one thing: most workplace communication problems do not start as big problems.
They start small. Someone leaves a meeting thinking one thing while everyone else thinks something completely different. A manager gives feedback that lands WAY differently than they intended. An employee is frustrated with a coworker but talks to three other people about it before ever talking to the coworker. Someone says, "I thought you were handling that." Someone else says, "Nobody told me."
And my personal favorite: "But we talked about this."
Did we? Because talking and communicating are not always the same thing.
I see this with my students, in organizations, and honestly, in my own life. We tend to assume that because we said something, sent something, or sat in a meeting about something, communication happened. Sometimes it did. Sometimes it absolutely did not.
So how do you know when the communication issues on your team are just normal bumps in the road and when they could benefit from communication training? Here are seven signs I would pay attention to.
Have you ever left a meeting thinking, "Well, that was productive," only to discover three days later that everyone walked away with a completely different understanding of what was decided? That's a communication problem.
Good meetings should create clarity. People should know what was decided, who owns what, and what happens next. If your team keeps having follow-up meetings to clarify what happened in the original meeting, we may have a problem.
And please don't schedule a meeting to discuss why you have too many meetings.
An employee is frustrated with a coworker, so they tell another coworker. Then maybe their manager. Then someone else at lunch. Meanwhile, the person they are frustrated with has absolutely no idea there is a problem.
This is often labeled "workplace drama," but I think that description misses what is happening beneath the surface. People avoid difficult conversations because they are uncomfortable. Most of us were never taught how to say, "Hey, something happened yesterday that bothered me. Can we talk about it?"
Communication training gives people tools for having those conversations before a relatively small problem turns into a much bigger one.
I have yet to meet many people who wake up thinking, "YES! I get to give someone uncomfortable feedback today!" Giving feedback is hard.
Managers worry about hurting someone's feelings. Employees worry about getting in trouble. People become defensive. Managers sometimes soften the message so much that nobody understands what they were trying to say, or they avoid the conversation altogether.
Then six months later, the employee hears about the issue in a performance review and thinks, "Why didn't anyone tell me this?"
Good feedback should not feel like an ambush.
Leadership says, "We communicated that." Employees say, "No one told us."
And both groups may be telling the truth.
Maybe it was mentioned in an email or discussed during a meeting. Maybe it was posted somewhere that employees technically had access to. But sending information is only one part of communication. People need context. They need to understand why something is happening, what it means for them, and what they are supposed to do with the information.
If leaders frequently find themselves saying, "But we sent an email about that," it may be worth looking at how information moves through the organization.
Conflict is not automatically bad. I teach conflict communication, and one of the things I want people to understand is that disagreement can be productive. You can disagree with someone and still have a great working relationship.
The trouble starts when people don't know how to handle disagreement. Someone reads an email and thinks the sender sounds rude. Someone interprets a short response as dismissive. Someone makes an assumption about another person's intentions.
Now we aren't dealing with the original issue anymore. We're dealing with the story people have created about the issue. Teams need the ability to slow that process down, ask questions, check assumptions, and talk through problems before they take on a life of their own and start running around the organization.
You can have an organization full of people who communicate constantly and still have employees who don't feel heard. Listening is more than staying quiet until it is your turn to talk. It means asking questions, being curious, and checking whether you understood someone correctly.
Sometimes it also means hearing something you don't particularly want to hear without immediately explaining why the other person is wrong.
When employees consistently feel unheard, they often stop speaking up. You want people telling you about the problem while it is still a problem you can fix.
The same misunderstanding. The same conflict. The same complaints. The same meeting issues. The same feedback problems.
At some point, the answer probably isn't another email reminding everyone to "communicate better." Because what does that even mean? Communicate more? Communicate less? Be nicer? Send fewer emails? Have more meetings?
Please, for the love of all things good, don't automatically have more meetings.
"Communicate better" isn't a skill. People need specific tools they can practice and use.
When I work with organizations, I don't walk in assuming their employees are bad communicators. They're humans. Humans bring different personalities, experiences, communication styles, expectations, stress levels, roles, and perspectives into the workplace every single day. Of course, communication gets messy.
The goal isn't to eliminate every misunderstanding or disagreement. It's to give people a shared set of tools for handling communication when it gets messy.
How do we give feedback? How do we listen when we disagree? How do we address conflict directly? How do leaders communicate decisions? How do we hold one another accountable without destroying relationships?
Those are skills. And skills can be learned.
Maybe. But I wouldn't recommend training simply because "communication could be better."
I'd start by asking a different question: Where is communication getting in the way of your team's ability to do good work?
At Peak Speak, I design customized communication training tailored to what is happening inside your organization, not a generic presentation on being a better communicator. Because your team probably doesn't need someone to stand at the front of a room and tell them communication is important.
They already know that.
They need help figuring out what to do differently on Monday morning.
If communication is getting in the way of your team's work, let's talk about what you're seeing and whether training could help.


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